Basecamp for Men E106: Shaping Our Narrative

E106 Shaping Our Narrative with Special Guest Roy Holman

 

E106 Introduction

I love to interview people who can see patterns and speak with depth. It has always been my aim that Basecamp for Men would be a trusted source of resources and wisdom. So it is not an accident that I gravitate towards guests that express Soul.

For it is in this quality of earthiness or Soul that our ancient teachings can reach us. When each of us humbly does our work, we prepare ourselves for Divine messages and inspiration. We are the vessel for what is emerging.

I sometimes can barely contain my excitement for what is starting to crest in WE THE PEOPLE. Will we win? Or will fascism prevail? As we continue to anchor our thoughts, emotions, and intentions in the higher planes or dimensions, we all help to bring forth the new age we all seek. America will certainly lead as she always does.

It seems we are all just now discovering that there is another dream that is looking for us. Can you sense it? Are you participating? Our collective Hero’s Journey is about to turn another page. Let’s take a deep breath and continue to move into our story with courage.

Roy Holman Bio

My guest today is Roy Holman. Roy is a meditation and yoga teacher, a lover of nature, and the creator and host of the podcast The Soulful Warrior. Here is my interview with Roy Holman.

E106 Final Thoughts

I hope you enjoyed our conversation with Roy. To find his yoga and meditation classes and retreats or listen to his podcast The Soulful Warrior, go to www.holmanhealthconnections.com

 

 

 

 

Basecamp for Men E105: The Sovereign Project

E105: The Sovereign Project with Special Guest Peter Stone

 

E105 Introduction

As we have watched the events of the past couple of years unfold, there was something that was coming into clearer and clearer focus for many. That we have inverted our ladder of authority.  We have forgotten our own sovereignty, instead giving our power over to the state and worse yet, the media-driven narrative.

It was shocking to me to watch people I care about capitulate so easily. I watched a level of obedience that scared me. I know some feisty people but I haven’t seen many who were expressing much of this during this so-called pandemic.

I naturally started to gravitate to those that were asserting their strength and their freedom and know their rights, like my guest today.  I quickly and quietly left circles that were too conformist and whose narratives were driven by fear. It’s just not for me.

This episode is in the same vein as one I did back with Paul Remington Jones, which is one I know many of you enjoyed.  If you like today’s episode and want to go give that one a listen, it is E87 Standing in Strength.

I find it a bit interesting that, of the four archetypes we use in men’s work, the one that men consistently have difficulty accessing, myself included, is the King or Sovereign. Americans have gotten flabby as to our Constitutional rights. I see this all over the place. We will need citizen leaders in this area in the coming months and years if we are to restore the Republic. Something I believe we are in the process of doing, whether you are aware of it or not.

It may just be time for you to roll up your sleeves and start to educate yourself on Common Law, the Bill of Rights and the Constitution. Learning or re-learning this will only give you strength and confidence in both yourself and the direction we are heading.

Our foundation is strong and gets stronger each time a citizen becomes clear as to where his or her authority comes from. I invite you today into deeper learning in this area of study.

Peter Stone Bio-

My guest today is Peter Stone and he is a thought leader in the area of empowering citizens to live in their own power and sovereignty. He is also the founder of The Sovereign Project. Here is my interview with Peter Stone.

E105 Final Thoughts

I hope you enjoyed my interview with Pete Stone. I really enjoyed my time with him. If I was in the UK, I would take him to the pub and buy him a beer (or two).

To find all of the great resources he has in The Sovereign Project go to www.thesovereignproject.liveYou can join for free and there is all sorts of resources there for you to start to empower yourself in all the ways we talked about.

 

Basecamp for Men E103: Freeing Yourself from “Niceness”

E103:Freeing Yourself from “Niceness” with Special Guest James Rapson

 

E103 Introduction

One of the common things I see men struggle with is how do you break out of this people pleasing fixation. It is the curse of Nice Guys and Nice Girls. You always need to be getting your approval and validation “over there”. It seems that, if this was a strategy we used as children, unaddressed, this coping pattern will continue to assert itself, showing us in spades that simply pleasing others with our niceness is an insufficient strategy if we are to navigate  our lives in more heroic and authentic ways.

I used to be a full on people-pleaser. No shit. Many from my past might remember this side of me.  A Nice Guy. UGH!! Now I see that it was all part of my development as a man. I needed to outgrow this immature, validation-seeking part of myself. And I had many teachers along the way. Particularly when I got involved with the Mankind Project.

I remember when I first got initiated by MKP and attending my very first men’s wisdom councils. I couldn‘t believe how these guys spoke to one another. There was a rough-and-tumble honesty among the men and complete disregard for being nicey-nice.  These men commanded respect with their truthfulness and authenticity.

It wasn’t that these men were just being assholes, although sometimes this happened when a man was triggered. It’s that they had a freedom of expression that was not bound by the Nice Guy mold. I  would use these chapters in my life to grow past the old Happy-Go-Lucky Nice Boy that was such a dominant part of my young adult life. The Warrior archetype would finish him off in my forties as my inner strength as a man grew.

I still know many men that are hemmed in by incessant people-pleasing. It‘s widespread. My guest today wrote a book and knows a lot about this topic. I’m looking forward to dialoguing with him.

James Rapson Bio

James Rapson has been an innovator in the field of personal and professional development for over 20 years. A former psychotherapist, his focus is now on training and coaching. He is an internationally-published author and a nationally-recognized speaker and workshop leader.

And he co-authored the book Anxious to Please: 7 Revolutionary Practices for the Chronically Nice with long-time friend and collaborator Craig English. Here is my interview with James Rapson.

E103 Final Thoughts

I hope you enjoyed our time with James as much as I did. To find James and his book, go to www.jamesrapson.com

Basecamp for Men E101: What is Skillful Living?

E101: What is Skillful Living with Special Guest Chris Beatie

 

E101 Introduction

I received a text message from a friend that had a little list of Right Livelihood principles and I immediately wanted to do an episode about it. Making a weekly 30 minute show turns you into someone who makes fast creative decisions.

I don’t have tons of episodes in the pipeline the way some podcasters do. I am a shoot-it-and-upload-it-now sort of guy. I tend to find stuff and turn it into content quickly.  I think this has been a blessing as I know some podcasters who labor over episodes for weeks trying to get it just right.

I really don‘t have the temperament for that. So I will see a meme or read an article that someone sends me and I’m off and running.  Make it good, pull the trigger on publish, and move onto the next episode.

Also, podcasters rarely have time to listen to other peoples podcasts. Isn’t that funny? All of the podcasters I have interviewed and spoken with all tell me the same thing: I am too busy making my show to listen to much else. Such is creative life at the microphone.

My guest today is my good friend Chris Beatie.  He’s a man who walks the talk and someone I can always count on. Let’s go have a conversation with him about skillful living.

Chris Beatie Interview

E101 Final Thoughts-

I hope you enjoyed our time with Chris and found value in that episode. I love the way Chris shows up as a man. We had a good laugh afterwards as we asked each other-did we get too personal? And then we both shrugged and said, “Fuck it, it’s good they hear this.”

I count Chris as someone I can trust on about 10 different levels. And my blessing to you my listener is that you have a man or two in your life who is unafraid of owning up to his own shadow the way that Chris models for us.

It opens up the possibility that we can speak to one another with newfound honesty and courage. It means we can finally be real with one another.

 

 

Basecamp for Men E100: The Learning Inside of Your Marriage

E100: The Learning Inside of Your Marriage with Special Guest Kimberly Holmes

 

E100 Introduction

Wow, I can’t believe we have made it to episode 100! I feel a sense of accomplishment with this and I want to start off  by thanking my excellent sound editor Chris Rodd. Chris, I couldn’t have done it without you.

And I would like to thank you my listener for giving our show a try and, for many of you, putting it into your regular rotation of podcasts. I really appreciate the follow. And if you are a fan of the show, help us by recommending it to a friend or two or giving us a review on Apple podcasts. Both of these actions help us to continue to grow and get the word out.

As many of you know, one of my interests is how we can best show up as men in our most important relationships. These primary relationships (with our spouses or life partners, with our children, with our siblings and our parents) will inevitably bring our most challenging issues to the surface.  They always do.

There is an interesting dynamic at play. These most intimate relationships are the ones we CARE the most about. And what tends to show up in the things we care about the most? Challenges and obstacles. Ones that we seem to sub-consciously put in our own way as we learn to love one another and ourselves unconditionally.

It is not hard to see that is is not always the great parts of us that are in our marriages and partnerships. We each show up with our unique wounds and insecurities. Our neediness, our upsets, our fears.

And there is a paradox at play. We seem to want unconditional love from one another but then keep putting parts of ourselves out there that we don’t even love. It is like we are telling our partners, “I don’t really like this small, needy, insecure part of myself, what do YOU think?”.

We long for the healing of our deepest wounds and then misguidedly ask our poor unsuspecting partner to do the healing. We often don’t suspect that it is ourselves that hold the key to the healing and love we have been looking for from our partners.

I sometimes think that our spouses and life-partners are really here to  bear witness to our courage to confront ourselves and to change. They encourage us to be true to ourselves and do our best to love life and them, with a full and open heart.

My guest today knows a lot about learning in a relationship. Let’s go have a conversation.

 

Kimberly Holmes Bio-

Kimberly Bean Holmes is the CEO of  Marriage Helper, an organization that seeks to give couples new resources for their journey.  She is also the CEO and Creator of PIES University. Kimberly is also the host of the It Starts With Attraction Podcast. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200K people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be. Here is my interview with Kimberly Holmes.

E100 Final Thoughts-

I hope you enjoyed my interview with Kimberly Holmes. I love what she said about how even if you are the only one to do inner work to help the relationship. This will often be enough to get positive development going. Because some of you might have partners that are not interested in therapy or working on things and that is ok. As long as YOU are willing to work on yourself, things will tend to grow in the relationship as well.

I also love what she said about  remember that how you make your spouse FEEL is so important. I think this is such an important point and I think it can get lost in long-term relationships. I know I lose sight of it from time to time.

Lastly, I asked Kimberly for a couple of book recommendations for you and I have a couple as well. Kimberly recommends 8 Datesby Dr. John Gottman and Daring Greatly by Brene Brown. My two relationship books that I love are Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix and Passionate Marriageby David Schnarch