Lately, I have been sitting with the question: what can MEN do to help the world today? What do we need to do to insure that future generations thrive? How do we leave the world better than we found it? As a teacher who works with male archetypes, I have been dimly aware that there is one of the archetypes that today seems strangely dormant in the collective male psyche…….THE KING.

The Big D. Men and depression. I spent my early years as a man with an assumption that any man who had depression was too weak to handle life‘s natural ups and downs. After all, I was an athlete and athletes are taught to keep their energy up and throw any obstacles (emotional or otherwise) to the side so that you can “be all you can be”.

E18: Embracing Challenges with Special Guest Tania Poletti

 

E18 Introduction

One of the things I really enjoy about doing this show is the variety of guests that I get to talk to. I just love it. And I have found that the best way to line them up is to let them come to me in a natural way. I may read a book and want to speak with the author, or I will come across a teacher that I want listeners to know about.

Or maybe a listener or friend will recommend someone to interview. It’s fun to have a name pop up on my radar and then a week or two later, I am speaking with them and making an episode. It gives the show an organic flow that speaks to the creative side of me.

Today’s guest is a perfect example of this. I originally connected with Tania Poletti on Facebook. She was posting all about Basecamp for Men and how much she loves the show and our message. So I reached out to her to see if she would be willing to have a chat with us. And she said yes!

She lives in Australia and is an expert on health and fitness, so I thought it would be a great opportunity to connect with Tania, find out what is happening with men in Australia, and ask her some important questions about men’s health.

Check her out at https://www.facebook.com/SchoolOfStrengthForWomen/

Thank you, dear readers and listeners, and enjoy this week’s episode!

Tony

 

E16: Understanding Men, Undestanding Women Part 2 with Special Guest Allison Armstrong

E16 Introduction

I hope you all enjoyed Part 1 of our discussion with Alison Armstrong. If you are just jumping into the show now, I highly recommend you listen to Part 1 first as this is a continuation of our talk last week.

In Part 2, Alison and I talk about the differing communication style of men and women. Alison tells us why it is so important for women to be accurate and specific in their communication (men, you will want to hear this!). We cover men and anger and why our anger is so unsettling for the women in our lives.

And lastly, we talk about the #metoo movement and what it means to men. We have not really addressed this topical issue yet on Basecamp for Men and this is a great first run at it. Alison, with her usual wisdom and humanity, has a different take on men in the #metoo era. It was a delight to hear her view of this situation and her story can help all of us regain a more compassionate and humane perspective on this divisive and charged issue.

I hope you enjoy this interview with Alison as much as I did 🙂

Thank you listeners!

Tony

E15: Understanding Men, Understanding Women Part 1

with Special Guest Alison Armstrong

 

E15 Introduction

The male/female dynamic is one that has fascinated me for a long time. As a leader inside of the men’s movement, I have an understanding of what makes men tick. I get them. I see how men hide and get stuck and I have found  approaches  that help and support them. It’s second nature after almost two decades of men’s work.

Women on the other hand, have confounded us. We love women! Yet their communication style and complex emotional lives can confuse and befuddle us men. I have been with my wife for almost twenty-five years and sometimes I feel like I have barely scratched the surface of this mystery.

And yet there is perhaps no greater training for men than to learn to dance with the feminine (literally as well as metaphorically). The beloved women in our lives are so important to us. We want to hold onto what is true for us men as well as partner in powerful new ways with women. In many ways THIS dynamic is where the rubber meets the road, in terms of personal development.

My guest today has been on the front lines of this work for twenty plus years. Alison Armstrong has brought an understanding of gender dynamics to a new level. By bringing compassion, authenticity, and humor to the conversation, Alison has elevated our understanding of how men and women work off one another and how all of us can partner in more powerful, loving, and joyous ways.

Enjoy this two-part conversation with Alison Armstrong.

Thank you listeners!

Tony