Basecamp for Men E46: Wisdom for Uncertain Times

E46: Wisdom for Uncertain Times with

Special Guest Paul Dunion

 

E46 Introduction

Whenever we find ourselves in uncertain times, it’s important to listen for voices of wisdom. This has always been true. Hearing truths that resonate and touch the human heart is a very good way to navigate confusion. Whenever we find ourselves amongst old structures and narratives that are no longer vibrant and alive, the Soul is indicating that it is time initiation into something new.  Together, we are travelling the faint path, you and I.  Right now, there is no sure, safe way. This much, I think, is clear.

Sometimes one simple conversation can make a difference in your perspective and trajectory. It’s interactions that carry depth that reaffirm our humanity. These conversations can help us back onto our true path or hero’s journey. It is clear to me more now than ever that we are here to help one another in these challenging times. My guest today is one such voice of wisdom.

Paul Dunion Bio-

Paul Dunion is a co-founder of the Connecticut’s Mens’ Gathering, a biannual retreat for men that began in 1992. He is the founder of Boys To Men, a mentoring community for teenage boys. He’s been in private practice as a Psychotherapist for 37 years and is presently a faculty member for Mobius Executive Training. Paul is the author of several books including my favorite, Path of the Novice Mystic. His blogs can be accessed at the Hufington Post as well as Medium.com. 

E46 Final Thoughts

To find out more about Paul and his work and writing, go to www.pauldunion.com

I always enjoy talking with Paul. I come away feeling better, more connected to my truth and to what is REALLY happening, as opposed to what all the media noise is trying to convince me about what is happening.

I love what Paul said about when we are in a paradigm shift, as we so clearly are now, our willingness to get shamelessly lost is something that can serve us well. It’s an interesting notion and it runs completely counter to how we have been cultured as men.

And what he said about cultivating tenderness is so powerful. In mythic terms, this is activating and strengthening the archetypal Lover.

What if, as men, we take on being more tender and caring? Would this make us less manly? Would it make us less courageous? What if this was the direction that our collective courage was taking us right now?

 

 

Basecamp for Men E45: Free Yourself from Suffering

E45: Free Yourself from Suffering with Special Guest Sophie McLean

 

E45 Introduction

There seems to be spiritual truths that are trying to find us, you and I. One prominent one is that the ego, or sense of separation, is the chief cause of much of our suffering. This is something that echoes down through the wisdom traditions, particularly from the east.

However, westerners are also awakening from the illusion of the ego. As my guest today so eloquently states, identification with the ego creates an illusory disconnect from Source, or from the Divine.

When you start to see the workings of the ego……..its strategies for keeping itself safe;  its incessant desire to be right and make others wrong; and it’s binary thinking where we draw boundaries between me and my side of the conflict as “the good guys”  and the others on the other side of the conflict or “the bad guys, the idiots, etc”. This is ego identification in action and the primary driver of much of our unhappiness.

Would you like to be truly happier? One sure path is to learn to investigate and dissolve the ego in service to something greater than yourself. See if you can stop trying to get everyone to believe and feel as you do. Let everyone have their particular truth.  Even if it doesn’t jive with your perspective. Try to give everyone space just as you want space to figure things out as well. We really don’t need to feel so distance from one another simply because we disagree about a few things.

Any narrative that has separation built into it is driven by the ego. It’s an easy litmus test. Can we, dear listeners, drop all “us vs. them” thinking? Can we stop polarizing whoever is over there? Can we awaken from the illusion of separation?

Sophie McLean Bio-

My guest today is an exceptional wisdom teacher. Someone who has stood at the front of the room and helped usher in new possibilities and new understanding for those in attendance.

She’s been a helicopter pilot, a teacher, a designer, a relief worker, a war refugee, and a CEO.

As a wisdom teacher, Sophie has spent decades leading transformational seminars to over 80,000 people around the world, of all ethnicities, ages, religions and social backgrounds.

Her seminar topics span both human and metaphysical dimensions and touch on such topics  such as: deconstructing the ego, consciousness, the nature of fear, relationships, spirituality, the dynamics of the feminine and the masculine, and how to make a  difference in the world.

Sophie’s new book The Elegance of Simplicity is a compelling, thought-provoking work of autobiographical fiction.

Basecamp for Men E44: Change Your Life by Changing Your Story

E44: Change Your Life by Changing Your Story featuring Lori Gottlieb

 

E44 Introduction

“The nature of life is change and the nature of people is to resist change.”

There is so much wisdom in this simple little statement. The Hero or the protagonist of the story (which is you) must always be reconciling this dynamic. How do we get ourselves ready for the next chapters of our lives, knowing that loss and change and life itself will shake our very foundation? How do we keep our narratives flexible so as not to get too rigid in our interpretations of what has happened to us, of who we are, and of what is possible for us moving forward.

In many ways, we don’t see how we create our own limitations. Or how we will often use story to create inertia in our lives. We unconsciously block ourselves from the very things that we crave the most- love, vitality, forgiveness, and renewal. We want a fresh chapter but keep telling ourselves the same old stories about ourselves and our world.

My hope is that today’s conversation can help show how psychotherapy can be used as a powerful tool. One that can help us re-write the parts of our narrative that no longer serve our growth or our potential. As a champion and recipient of many hours of therapy, I can attest to the effectiveness of the tools you learn and the value of changing perspectives on a life situation. Therapists are often excellent guides in getting forward movement back into the protagonists story. The takeaway? That the story of your life is always open to a fresh interpretation.

Lori Gottlieb Bio

Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and author of the New York Times bestseller Maybe You Should Talk to Someone which is being adapted as a television series.  In addition to her clinical practice, she writes The Atlantic’s “Dear Therapist” advice column and contributes regularly to The New York Times and many other publications. Her recent TED Talk is one of the top 10 most watched of the year. Her new iHeart Radio podcast, “Dear Therapists”, produced by Katie Couric, will premier later this year.

 

Basecamp for Men E43: Creating Your Future Self

E43: Creating Your Future Self with Special Guest

Dr. Benjamin Hardy

 

E43 Introduction

The topic of how we actualize our potential has long been a fascinating one to me. What habits do we need to examine and, perhaps, let go of to be a better version of ourselves? What builds courage in our lives?

My guest today is Dr. Benjamin Hardy and he is someone who has been exemplary at putting his principles to the test. He has evolved himself into a prolific writer and thought leader with content that continually has you think and examine yourself and the results that you produce. This is not just about productivity. He examines the psychology and inner workings of what creates your results and gives you new tools to set a different course for yourself.

Dr. Benjamin Hardy Bio

Dr. Benjamin Hardy is an organizational psychologist and the bestselling author of Willpower Doesn’t Work. From 2015-2018, he was the #1 writer in the world on Medium.com. His blogs are read by millions every month. Ben and his wife Lauren adopted 3 children from the foster system in Febuary 2018 and one month later Lauren got pregnant with twins who were born in Dec. of 2018.

Here is my interview with Dr. Benjamin Hardy.

And go pick up a copy of his great new book Personality Isn’t Permanent.  When you do, if you go to www.benjaminhardy.com and give them your purchase code, Ben and his team has some great free resources for you.

Basecamp for Men E42: Honoring the Divine Feminine

E42: Honoring the Divine Feminine w Sally Kempton

 

E42: Introduction

In season one, I did a bunch of episodes on the sacred masculine. I like to use masculine archetypes to help orient the listener  to a larger inner landscape, using myth when appropriate.  I promised I would return with some episodes about the Divine Feminine as I think it warrants a deeper exploration.

In my studies of myth, I have been particularly attracted to two myths: One is The Holy Grail. The other is the Fallen Goddess Myth or the myth of Sophia, which is the central mythic motif in Gnosticism. Both are Goddess myths.

And India, being a suppository of Feminine divinity, has always carried this lineage forward in a powerful and enchanting way.

The Goddess traditions, and there are many from all times and places, come with a whole new set of insights, practices, and wisdom. For the open-minded seeker, this lineage has the potential to open up vast new vistas for the spirit.

My guest today is Sally Kempton and she is a teacher in the great Feminine lineage. I am a HUGE fan of her work and her wisdom.

 

Sally Kempton Bio

Sally Kempton is a widely respected teacher of meditation and spiritual wisdom. A former journalist who wrote for Esquire, New York, and the Village Voice, she has spent over four decades practicing, teaching, and writing on meditation and spiritual philosophy.

Sally is the author of two best-selling books, Awakening Shakti: The Transformative Power of the Goddesses of Yoga, and  Meditation for the Love of It,” which Spirituality and Health magazine called “the meditation book your heart wants you to read”.  Sally teaches online courses and seminars on meditation and spiritual philosophy, and leads retreats and workshops in the U.S., Canada and Europe. Her website is www.sallykempton.com.