Basecamp for Men E71: Bringing Truth into the Light

E71: Bringing Truth into the Light with Special Guest Howard Ferguson

 

E71 Introduction-

We sit at the precipice. The completion of 2020 and the start of what will be an epic 2021 for humanity. If you have been listening and investigating, you are certainly finding some interesting truth threads. They are everywhere these days.

It seems that we are being asked to integrate conflicting narratives right now.  How will you process information that makes you angry or upset? How will you treat people that have a drastically different viewpoint from you? Will the left hand and right hand continue to condescend and project onto one another? Can you find the higher ground in the coming days? If you do, I promise you will receive exactly what you need to understand what is unfolding.

The new information that is coming into your awareness now and into early 2021 will be some of the most important information you will process in your lifetime. Can you make room? Can you let go of your preconceived notions? Can you recognize what is happening? In humanity? In the world? In yourself?

We enter 2021 with a sense of excitement and trepidation. Something big is upon us. The Hero has prepared and has taken a hunter’s stance.

Howard Ferguson Bio-

My guest today is a friend, entrepreneur, restaurateur, and fellow seeker of Truth. Howard Ferguson is a man known as straight-shooter, a truth teller, and someone who is able to integrate new information and form it into a collective vision of what is happening and where we might be going.

Here is my interview with Howard Ferguson.

E71 Final Thoughts-

I hope you enjoyed our time with our friend Howard Ferguson. A few resources for you for the upcoming year. I HIGHLY recommend my teacher Patrick Conner’s New Year Intention meditation. If you go to www.sharmada.org  you will see it right there at the top of the first page and its free.

Howard recommended the Heart Math Institute; Dr. Joe Dispenza and his excellent book Becoming Supernatural; and Dr. Bruce Lipton’s Spontaneous Evolution.

I also love what Howard said about accessing Heart coherence. It’s not only for your health and spiritual well-being but as a way to fine-tune your instrument for resonating with truth. Seems like a good thing for us to continue to develop right now.

 

 

Basecamp for Men E70: Evolving Ourselves with Special Guest Dulce Ruby

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E70: Evolving Ourselves with Special Guest Dulce Ruby   E70 Introduction- Hello listeners! I would like to start off by thanking you all and wishing you a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.  As we…

Basecamp for Men E68: Our Hero’s Journey

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E68: Firestarters for Men-Our Hero’s Journey   E68 Introduction- We are moving towards the end of 2020 and what a year it has been!  The Hero’s Journey that we collectively share has entered a new…

Basecamp for Men E62: Marriage as a Hero’s Journey

E62: Marriage as a Hero’s Journey with Special Guest Lisa Rezac

 

E62 Introduction-

As part of our Hero’s Journey, men will often struggle with our interractions with the Feminine. Both the women in our lives and the Feminine aspect that is inside every man. Women have the ability to confound us, test us, push us, as well as celebrate and elevate us.

My own marriage and partnership with my wife Lisa has lasted more than twenty-five years now. The learning in this relationship has been astounding.  She has, in many ways, been my most important teacher. I would not be the man I am today without her influence.

In your primary relationships, ALL of your baggage and your shadow come into play. The soft underbelly of your ego gets exposed. Any bullshit you might be trying to pull out in the world, any persona that you construct to come across as nothing but confident and positive will surely be exposed (and wilt) in the slow burn furnace of a long-term relationship.

A good marriage absolutely REQUIRES you to show up authentically. Warts and all. Fear and shame, needy and insecure. These are the childhood wounds that we bring into our partnerships. Even if we had a relatively healthy childhood, which very few of us have had, marriage will test you every step of the way.

A long-term partnership teaches you about heart and what it is to love. However,  our clumsy attempts at unconditional love repeatedly show us our bias’s and our fear of intimacy. It’s easy to say I accept you and love you but my subconscious mind, with all of it’s baggage and wounds and insecurities, keeps me projecting my preferences onto my beloved. I’m ok when you show up as x but not when you show up as y.

Marriage and life-long partnerships are a true Hero‘s Journey. Together you will face dragons that seem terrifying. Childhood monsters, traumas, fears of all sorts. You may face infidelity and fear of abandonment.  You will face a dark night of the soul, where it looks like it is falling apart and all hope is lost. When you are there, remember that it is just a chapter in your Hero’s Tale. Look for your resources and your mentor and forge on. You can do it.

And, like in a Hero’s tale, you will change and grow. Who you are in the next chapter will be a different version of yourself. It will be the same for your partner. I honor all of you on this path. For I know how challenging and frustrating it can be. Learning how to deal with yourself and this force of nature called your life partner.

With that being said, my blessing to you is you that you deeply honor your partner for what he or she is to you: a Soul mate who is deeply committed to your growth and someone who is helping you strengthen your heart. Interestingly, strong and loving hearts is exactly what the world is calling for right now.

Lisa Rezac Bio-

My guest today is an exceptional woman known for her beauty, intuition, humor, and courage. Lisa Rezac has been an classically trained actor, corporate trainer, entrepreneur, mother, and a fundraising auctioneer. She is a creative thinker and a person who models living your deepest truths. She has also been my life-partner for the past 26 years.

E62 Final Thoughts-

I hope you enjoyed hearing what conversations are like in the Rezac household. If you are a person who is committed to growing inside your relationship, I’ll recap some of the recommendations for you.

The Gottman Institute does some really amazing couples workshops and they have a list of Gottman trained therapists if you are looking for guidance. If your relationship is feeling stuck in some old patterns, finding a good therapist is essential to getting forward movement. It always worked for us. They are at www.gottman.com

What would Lisa and I have done had we not learned how to mirror? An essential tool for couples. You can learn it with the book called Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix and find therapists that will teach you this and help you get better at it at www.harvilleandhelen.com

And lastly, there is a great book about life partners that sits on the top shelf of my library called Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch. He shows the reader the importance of differentiation and the power of learning how to validate yourself instead of always looking to your partner or other people. Very insightful book.

Thank you listeners (and readers)!

 

 

 

 

Basecamp for Men E61: The Male Archetypes

E61 Firestarters for Men: The Male Archetypes

 

I have talked about and teach within a framework of a collective masculinity expressed through five primary archetypes. These are Lover, Warrior, Magician,  and King. The four horsemen of the mature masculine. As well as a fifth,  the archetypal Hero.

I like to think of it as a sort of archetypal compass.  The Hero will be in the middle and the four archetypes in four directions acting as allies to the Hero, which is you.

Since one of my functions within my mission is to bring men new perspectives and new resources, I thought you might find it useful to unpack some of these collectives. Additionally, I thought if I could share with you some of the ways that men access and express these energies in the world, it would give you not only an overview but some tools that will help you where “the rubber meets the road”, so to speak.

Whenever I lead men’s groups, I always bring attention to these archetypes as a way to activate potential. Men are better able to activate the Hero within if they have a roadmap and allies. It is here in a more archetypal way of seeing or what Jung called the archetypal mind that men can find the start of new chapters for themselves.

I will go through each of these five archetypes  and give you a snapshot as well as access points to help you get in touch with these important parts of yourself.

I hope you enjoy E61: The Male Archetypes.